Competition in Marriage? Yes!

2013-09-27_0918Competing as a married couple can be fraught with difficulties, but it can be a whole lot of fun as well. True competition without a sense of love is useless in a marriage as it can cause strife in the relationship. However, competing for the sake of enjoyment can bring a new element to even a long marriage that has seen its share of ruts.

How do I know this? It’s pretty silly, really. My husband and I recently began playing The Tribez on Facebook. It is a game similar to Age of Mythology in that you build a town and progress through the evolution of your society. There are some different elements as well—an ongoing and mysterious communication with a professor, for example—but that’s the basic gist of the game.

Although it is a simple Facebook game, it has become a source of fun and competition for my husband and myself. We talk about our own tribe, how we are progressing through the game, and what quests we are currently completing. Not so surprisingly too considering my husband’s personality, it has also brought out his extremely competitive nature, and so we have found ourselves taunting each other about a lack of progress, but in a fun way.

Is playing this game productive? No, it sure isn’t. But it has injected a bit of fun into our relationship during a difficult and uncertain time. We can talk about something light hearted and tease each other in a silly way. Oddly, we’ve even found ourselves growing a bit closer. And that makes it worthwhile.

Moving on . . . to Gratitude

Original Photo by tangle_eye on
Original Photo by tangle_eye on

Sometimes, you just gotta move on…

either from friends or a situation. This time is just one of those times for me. The situation had become unhealthy and simply wasn’t worth the effort. After months of stress and concern, it was time to leave.

The situation and the people involved don’t deserve the effort of further discussion, and so I’ll move on to gratitude. Yes, as I’ve gotten older, I realize more and more just how important gratitude really is. All too often, I have not truly appreciated my blessings until they were gone. I have been blessed with so many positive people and situations, and I will admit that at the time I was too caught up in my own preoccupations and problems to really stop and understand just how much of a blessing they were in my life.

Well, no more. I’m moving on…leaving a bad situation and moving on to gratitude. Now, I’ll admit that my choice leaves me and my family in a bit of a precarious situation, but we have each other. And I feel a stress has been relieved from my life.

So today I woke up and thanked God for this day. I snuggled with my honey and realized just how blessed I am to have him in my life. I don’t know what tomorrow may bring, but it’s got to be better than the past few months.

And that’s something to look forward to.